#COMPREHENSIVE KINK CHECKLIST FULL#

Before you even get into a BDSM checklist with a lover…I’d recommend taking this for yourself and also sharing your results with those in your life and learning theirs. Then I learned of this test and realized there are different languages of apologies. I actually became agitated, annoyed, irritated, and sometimes outright offended at the way people would apologize to me. Apology Language Profile for Adultsvia 5LoveLanguages.How do you give and receive love? This test helps you to articulate that so that you can be more intentional and mindful with yourself and with others. The 5 Love Languages via 5LoveLanguages.I think before you start asking someone about their kinks or attachment styles….maybe go through these questions first with yourself. But I bet there’s one or two that will inspire you. She feels that exploring the roots of what you’ve learned about intimacy is paramount to a fulfilling relationship, both physically and emotionally. Her questionnaire helps you to explore the root of your sexuality. I’m Type 5: The Investigator.)Įsther Perel is the G.O.A.T.

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#COMPREHENSIVE KINK CHECKLIST FULL#

I recommend paying the full price for the full test. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge. It’s considered one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others. I’ve used this self-assessment tool since 2005 and I love it.

The Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI® version 2.5) via Enneagram Institute.

(I have a different tool, inspired by this one to share very soon!) I first used this tool via the Touch & Play Asheville Festival in 2018 and have been addicted to it ever since. Literally, before or on the first date, we discuss this guide.

I use this guide as a conversation piece at the very beginning of any dating relationship. 8 Steps to Creating the Intimate Explorations You Love via Embody More Love.These tools are great for your own personal assessments. So here’s some of my playbook of what I use for myself and for my lovers. I also love tools that are great for being intentional in conscious connections too. I’ll also preface this by saying I love tools and resources that guide me on a journey of self-reflection, self-assessment, and self-awareness. It’s written in a gender binary, key elements are missing and I’d like a list that’s organized from zero experience to “extreme,” so I’m making my own and will one day swap that out. It was created by someone in 2012 and it needs to be updated. By knowing each other’s fetishes, desires, and limits, you can better explore your mutual sexuality.”Īlso note, I do find this checklist problematic. Everyone in the relationship should fill it out privately, then compare answers. But there’s more to it than that and if you want to go deeper, keep reading.Īlso please do note, as the website states, “This checklist contains sexual acts, from simple “vanilla” sex to the extremely kinky - touching on things like BDSM, multiple partners, roleplaying scenes, and more. I’d rather not waste anyone’s time and as intimacy, transparency, vulnerability, and connection are important to me, especially as I live a rather taboo life, I like to get right to it! So it is no wonder that I’m often quoting one erotic checklist or another. Usually between the 1st and 3rd date with a new lover, I will have brought up the topic of sexuality, erotic art, BDSM, and more.

Comprehensive kink checklist